Glad to see your post, Andy. I've been thinking of posting the same thing, but the start of school has been NUTS. I'm guessing child loss is counted in different stats on the survey, but three m/cs here.
1. Lost all social outtings in summer 2004 and 2005.
2. Lost income through the loss of a possible book contract. I had an editor interested in 2004, and then I got HG. I came back to her in early 2005, and she was agreeable to working together again. But then I got HG again. Think that bridge is burned.
3. Lost out on an ALL EXPENSES paid trip to Cabo San Lucas, to stay at the Los Palmos when dh earned this wonderful 5 day vacation in 2004. BIL went in my place on the free romantic vacation
. I still feel resentful toward BIL for "taking" my trip, even though he didn't. Can't go to Mexico with severe HG.
4. Lost time with family...haven't been to New England in two years because of HG and the long lasting impact.
5. Lost out on the opportunity to ever enjoy the short time I had with Hope. I resented and hated her the whole time because of HG, and then she was gone. Never ever to know my love on earth. I think that is the worst loss due to HG.
6. So much of what is listed applies to me, too. I definitely couldn't parent my living child during HG. I still can't get too close to my dh or I feel ill from scent. I can't even prepare a normal meal and eat with my family. Everything is impacted.