by bmc » Mar 15, 2006 8:47 pm
Andrew,
I feel for what you and your new bride are going through. It is extremely tough. I can't imagine how you two feel being newlyweds. My wife and I have been married for years and HG has been tough on us! I hope your wife appreciates your support, because some of the husbands mentioned on this site give us guys a bad name. I'm sure after the birth of your beautiful, healthy, child she will come to realize what a man really is. Keep up the good work! I know what you mean about feeling "useless." We as men want to "fix" everything and HG is something we have absolutely no control over! Hang in there. It sounds like your doing everything you possibly can. Don't be shy to lean on those friends who have offered to help. It took me awhile to accept help from others, but when I was completely exhausted, frustrated, and angry I finally accepted that help and I kick myself for not asking sooner! You need to be able to recharge your batteries for your wife. I know! If you read some of my past posts in the other forums, I seemed to be at wits end. ASK FOR THE HELP! It makes all the difference in the world.
Don't look for it to just end one day, but rather look for small improvements such as vomiting less, feeling a little better one day, eating and drinking a little more, etc. Small improvements will give you hope that you and your wife are on the downhill side of HG.
My wife and I are right there with both of you. We are due July 20. So if you need to vent, talk, or ask advice I'm here and willing to help just as I've been helped here. Your wife IS a hero and so are you for standing by her with your support. I can't tell you how much that means to the ladies. My thoughts are with you and your wife. Now go call those friends and ask them to help with whatever the two of you need!
Bruce