I've been away for awhile, dealing with an inner ear disorder (as if hg weren't enough for the rest of my life???). It's been nearly 20 months since Miya was born and over two years since hg hit, and I still shudder at the memory of it all. Despite that, I've been seriously bit by the baby bug again! Dh has as well, but that is about all we agree on...
He wants to have another bio. baby. I'm not really into doing it again, especially with dh working full time and with an energetic toddler running around. It would be impossible to take care of Miya with the kind of hg I have. We can't afford daycare, much less someone to take care of me. Dh has no flexibility with his job. We have no family that can help nearby. Yet, he wants me to just suck it up and do it again.
I desperately want another child, and would love to adopt. I've done a lot of research and would love to try a domestic adoption, and with the tax credit and other financial aid, it is SO affordable! But dh is really against it, and won't really explain why, he just calls it instinct. He says he'd rather have no more children than adopt one. This KILLS me!
So what do I do??? I don't want to push him and have him give in, that would be wrong. He has to want it too. But do we BOTH need to be miserable without a second child? Has anyone else gone through this? Any advice?
Thanks so much for listening, just getting it off my chest feels nice.
-Karen