by Ivydragon » Oct 04, 2006 3:57 pm
I even hesitate to post, but I want people to know that adoption isn't always quick and easy - and that maybes crop up, and fizzle out, and sometimes they become real.
So, I called a new friend from church to chat this morning - a friend's sister who has moved to our town, and she says her family is up to figuring out a situation she wants to tell me about. A cousin with 2 children just taken into state custody, pregnant with a third, and the baby will be taken at birth because she is in prison. All three children are full biological siblings, and they have recommended us to the relatives as a possible adoptive family.
I don't know if the birthmom is even interested in considering adoption at this point. The birth father allegedly isn't interested in custody of the children. The oldest is around 3. I am completely unfamiliar with the particular state's adoption laws, or fostering laws, and it might mean becoming foster parents to adopt two of them, and then a private adoption for the third with the current situation - who even knows.
I don't even dare hope very much. The logistics of adding three children, though, will soon have me wondering, figuring, planning how we would even do it, and then the hope will set in, if even just a little bit. So, I'm just trying to stay neutral inside. It's too much to take in. I feel like I'm at the amusement park and I'm taking a good hard look at a roller coaster and deciding whether or not I'm getting on - except when it is named adoption, we always ride it, because it's the only way to see the end of the ride.
It's funny - how much a phone call can change.
Andy
Mom to Aaron 14 (HG), Anna 11 (HG), Adam 8 (adopted), Andrew 8 (adopted), fostering a newborn . . .