Hi all,
I don't know if a thread like this would belong in ttc or here, but I thought I would put it here since I'm not actually ttc yet.
So, last week I learned that there is going to be a new job opening up at work. It would be three days a week, and therefore, enough hours to be eligible for benefits such as 80% of prescriptions meds paid for, short term disability, dentists, eyewear etc. The days that I would work would coincide nicely with DH, my family and dh's family each taking care of him one of the days that I would work. If I get this job (and the chances of me getting it are very good) I could work up enough hours to be eligible for the 55% in pay Canadian women get from the government for 1 year after the birth of a child. This job is permanent too so I would have a job to return to if I so decided after my one year mat leave.
Sounds wonderful, I know. But here is the downside. I thought that they were going to post it in the next couple weeks, but I heard a rumor at work today that it may not be posted until July for a hire date sometime in August. DH and I have been planning for months to ttc in May/June and if this job doesn't start until August, we would have to delay ttc until November/December at the earliest since there is a three month waiting period for benefits after you start the job. This absolutely devastates me. I've been preparing myself physically and mentally for May. I've become excited about having another baby. A couple of my friends are also planning to ttc at the same time and I thought it would be so fun to be pregnant together. I just don't know what to do. This new job would be wonderful but it would come at a cost. I want my kids to be three years apart and they would be more like 4 years apart if I took this job. Also too I would love it if my mom could see another grandchild (she has cancer) and if I wait, she might not see that new grandchild. My mom was also a great support to me during my first pregnancy, her having had HG too and I would love to have that kind of support and understanding from her again.
Does anybody have any advice for me??? I'm just feeling very overwhelmed with this decision. It's not that I have to decide right away but I just want to know where my life is going in the next couple months. I hate this uncertainty especially after having thought that I had everything figured out!
Joanna