This still bothers me. Yeah, I know I had twins. Yeah, I know twins run smaller. And yeah, my singleton was fullterm and petite (6 lbs 15oz). But my girls WERE low birthweight, SGA. On another list, someone posted birth pictures of their healhty 9 lb baby girl, and it hit home how that little one was both my girls combined. Even the newborns here look so healthy. Pink and with a bit of meat on their bones.
It still hurts me, emotionally. I still feel like a failure at times, and I really thought I could do HG again and get through it "better". Better meaning, by getting more aggressive treatment (which I did, though apparently not enough) that I could achieve a wt gain this time (as I didn't w/my first pregnancy). Be stronger or in a somewhat healthier status compared to my first. But I was wrong. I had a "goal" for this pregnancy. I thought I knew more and that it would translate into a better pregnancy, even if the HG itself was just as bad or lasted as long.
So I'm thinking, maybe regardless of how much you know about HG, regardless of the treatment you get, maybe it's ridiculous to have any goals of getting through HG other than to just make it through. Maybe there is no way or treatment to make it "healthier".
Or were my Drs neglectful? Was I too scared of being perceived as a problem patient (and I was very concerned about it) that I didn't speak up enough, press hard enough? Should I have done TPN or had an NG tube? Would my babies have weighed more? Was 4 lbs 13 oz and 4 lbs 6 oz the biggest I could have grown my girls, even in a "normal" pregnancy? Or did the fact I gained 2lbs (start to finish) mean my girls were undernurished?
Why WEREN'T my Drs more concerned? Why DIDN'T they ever address my lack of wt gain? It is just a very painful memory, Christmas night, when they weighed Chloe, and here my fullterm baby was down to 3lbs 14 oz. I carried her to 36 wks 6 days. They are both very healthy now. Weigh over 14lbs. But I feel like I gave them such a bad start, like my faulty body is the reason their first 10 days were in the NICU.