Hi All:
I am new posting to this forum. I have been to the site numerous times but only to read other's posts. Last November, my husband and I got pregnant with our second child. It was a planned pregnancy.
I was out-if-my mind sick..delirious. I didn't know if it was morning or night, Friday or Tuesday. At the time, I would have rather been dead and just kept saying, "someone just kill me." I guess, having found this web site, I had hyperemesis. After seven different medication combinations and a hospital visit my OB asked us if we had considered termination. I said, "that I would be lying if I said that I hadn't." When she asked my husband what he thought, "He said that it wasn't his decision that I would have to make it and he couldn't add anything." Long story short, the pregnancy was terminated after a month of 24 hour days in bed (only time out, was bathroom breaks). I lost six pounds in seven days the week before the termination. I was so delirious while sick that it never entered my head, that if I terminate, I probably won't have any more children of my own (i.e. being a Christian family the termination was something that I never expected to have to encounter and could not possibly go through another). I just wanted it over.
Well, after a year. I can not let go of the obsession of wanting more children. We have a biological little boy who will turn three in a couple of weeks. As others have mentioned, seeing other pregnant women or other families with multiple children makes me envious and jealous (almost crazy with desire to have another baby). I was sick while pregnant with our little boy but I was able to go to work and I didn't have any children to take care of at the time.
Even though, I believe that I could make it through another pregnancy this time with some planning and support, my husband will have nothing to do with it. As mentioned before, we are a strong Christian family who has suffered greatly with our sin factor as a result of this termination.
Is there anyone who has gone through the obsession of wanting another child and has come to grips that it may not happen? I would love some advice.
Mom in Ohio