by nomore » Aug 18, 2004 2:13 pm
Its an interesing question you pose! I first went out on short tem disablity when I was about 8 weeks alonng- for 24 hour home IV hydration (which obvoisuly didnt allow me to work). What was in my favor, is that my SIL also worked at the same small company as I and she was at least able to explain that I was really sick. It was around 15 weeks I went into work to drop some HR stuff off for long term disabiloty and some of my co-workers saw me. I knew I looked awful. For weeks I looked so malnourished, an extemly pasty pale color... sometimes almost green! Before pregnancy, I was one of those people who was dressed nicely all of the time & always looked pretty pulled together, so needless to say, looking as I did, most of my co-workers were shocked and I think thats when they finally realized I wasnt "faking".
Needless to say, my FMLA time ran out around the time I was 22 weeks along, and I was SO weak, I was in NO shape to go back full time to a 50+ hour a week, somewhat stressfull job. My Dr confirmed this and I asked if I could work part time. I was told if I did, I would loose my Long term diablity should I need it again. We were NOT in the position to do that, and I was not sure I was even able to handle a part time job, so I went on Long Term disabilty until 6 weeks post partum. I lost my job. This was a HUGE emitional issue for me, I spent days crying, and in turn my HG spent a couple more weeks of being worse.
I was offered an opening again about 9 weeks post partum and declined. I was still too angry at my work, and not willing to leave my baby. They again offerned me a part time positiion 11 months post partum & I declined again, as the schdeule didnt work for us with childcare costs. I now work part time, in an ER (totally different field), and I made the descion to not seek a more demading job until at least 1 to 2 years AFTER a 2nd pregnancy. We can afford to get by right now, without my prevoius much higher paycheck, so I would like to use the opportunity to stay home.
Its weird, in all of HG, it helped me make the descions and change my thoughts so much. Prior to HG, I had planned on returning to workfull time after the baby was born- HG chose for me to stay home!
Hope this helps a bit!
Robin