I just read the thread about the unsupportive husbands, and I wanted to post my own husband story. Not to brag, because it sounds like some husbands (like some doctors, some mothers-in-law, some friends) can be real jerks when it comes to dealing with HG.
My husband is a stay-at-home dad to our 5 year old. Having been a stay-at-home mom to this same child when he was an infant, I know full well that being a stay-at-home parent is the hardest job in the world. Before I got pregnant this time, we shared the housework, the errand-running, and stuff like that. I did almost all of the cooking, simply because I know how to look in the refrigerator and find things to eat, and he doesn't. And I took care of the bills and finances, because I have a slightly better head for math.
We're now at 10 weeks of dealing with HG (I'm 15 weeks pregnant). Brad been there for me--ALWAYS--to take me to the ER, to hold me when I'm crying, to sympathize with my frustrations with the doctors, and to stand up for me to doctors and nurses and others who have been less than sympathetic. And this was before we even knew that my condition has a name. Not only that, but Brad has risen marvelously to the occasion and taken over all of the housework, cooking, grocery shopping, bill-paying, errand-running, and all of the tasks that we used to divide between us. Before, when I got home from work, I would kind of take over the demands and questions of our son, to give Brad a break in the evenings. Now, Brad is the on-call parent, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. He struggles with preparing meals that I can eat, and never gets offended if I'm not able to eat something he has cooked. He has never uttered one single word of complaint, and is encouraging and supportive in those moments when I'm feeling depressed and guilty for not being able to do more. And, on top of this, when my employer started protesting at all of the work I have missed, and when I was that my job might be in jeopardy, he said, "Don't worry about it, Carmen. If they fire you, they are complete jerks. But we'll make it through. I'll get two jobs if I have to, and you can just stay home until you've recovered completely."
I'm not saying all of this to make anyone jealous. I'm saying it so that you all realize that it is NOT too much to expect for a husband to step in and be supportive and encouraging through your illness, to take on more work than usual, and to even learn how to do some things they couldn't do before! Do not feel guilty for being sick, or for expecting your spouse to be something more than a selfish @ss. If your husbands give you any flack for not being able to do the things you could do before, tell them my story and remind them that if they can't step up to the plate, you CAN find someone who will.