Who is done?

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Who is done?

Postby justme » Feb 25, 2010 9:46 am

And I mean really, super for sure done?

It's like baby booming here and I want to know that I am not alone.

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Postby aaronsmommy » Feb 25, 2010 9:50 am

Done.

Super, super done with my one and only.
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Postby jarezuny » Feb 25, 2010 10:27 am

I'm super, super done.

I would have had my tubes tied AND an IUD if they would have let me.
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Postby chrissy27 » Feb 25, 2010 12:36 pm

I am done. I have my boy and my girl. I've been thinking about getting the Essure, but for now I'm on BC.
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Postby mammaclare » Feb 25, 2010 6:59 pm

Raises hand.

Or, there will be urologist, and happens to be my cousin (and also the DH of my OB) who has lots of 'splainin to do...if you get my meaning.

I get waves of sad, but really, I'm okay. I'm 38. Steve does NOT want more (though way back when we were together on the number three for kids).

We'd have no support, I don't want to do PPD again, I dont' want my pelvis to split wide open again since those bones are still not right, I don't want bedrest for pre-e for 9w on my left side only again, I don't want GD again...oh, and yeah--that pesky puking.

So, yeah. I'm all the way, totally, completely, done.

And, moving on with my life, too--interview is in 38hrs for PA school!!! Something I couldn't do w/ HG.
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Postby Marie » Feb 25, 2010 7:36 pm

DONE!! Tubes tied, and later a hysterectomy. Oh and my husband had a vas, so if I get pregnant I would be more famous than the he/she that is preggers with their third child :wink:
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Postby Beck » Feb 25, 2010 9:48 pm

absolutely done!
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Postby tottie 12 » Feb 25, 2010 11:31 pm

Done and at peace with it. Hubby had vas.
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Postby *my3sons* » Feb 26, 2010 6:03 am

Done here. No surgeries but I don't think we could conceive without strong interventions anyway.

Like some others, I get waves of sadness (fewer and further between as time goes by). But, mostly, I'm enjoying my big boys and all the things I can do with them after having so much time to recover and regain strength and health. I can't imagine losing that now. That is so much my big focus these days and it helps when the haunting thoughts do make it into my conciousness.

So, no, there won't be any babies booming out of me.
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Postby BookishMama » Feb 28, 2010 8:38 pm

We are done. We had already decided that two would be it for us, and now it is pretty much not advisable for me to ever be pregnant again anyway due to the "window" in my uterus from my c-section scar.

I have had a few moments of feeling sad about never being pregnant or having another baby again. But, it is very unlikely I'd ever have one of those perfect, glowing pregnancies anyway, and I am not at all sad to never spend 20+ weeks throwing up multiple times every day again.
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Postby dwtegli » Feb 28, 2010 9:05 pm

Done, Done, and triple Done. A hysterectomy after my last one made absolutely sure of that. There are moments when I think "what if" but the majority of the time I know that I am happy with what I have and that I couldn't do it again anyways. I knew that for sure after the last one, hence not having second thoughts about the hyst in the first place. It has been over 5 years now and like I said, although I still think "what if" sometimes, I don't regret it for a second.
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Postby freshair » Feb 28, 2010 9:27 pm

This one is definitely the last for us. Booking DH in as soon as possible. Four is more than enough for us. I am sure of that!
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Postby OlisMommy » Mar 01, 2010 12:21 am

My body is done. There will be no more children in my uterus. My body tries to die when that happens.

Surrogate? If we have the money someday and Olivia is not too old to enjoy a young sibling... then maybe, but that doesnt look that possible.


So done. 29 years old. One hellava cute little girl and pretty much done.
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Postby sarahkate » Mar 05, 2010 11:24 am

Me too, (sadly) done and not even 30 yet.
The HG is the main reason, though there are a few others.
I have a wonderful girl and she and I are very blessed to have a bit of a share in someone else's DS, though. My other half is sterilised, so I have no hormonal bc these days - ovulation does weird things to me. Not sure my GP would put a Mirena in my (very scarred) uterus just so I don't have to ovulate though!

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Postby Kristen » Apr 04, 2010 2:47 am

I am done, after life threatening HG. It gets easier as my son gets older. He is 15 now so people have finally stopped asking when I will give him a brother or sister so he doesn't have to be an only child!
As a result, I NEVER ask people if they are having another - I know the pain!
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Postby Mom to Aidan & Daniel » Apr 04, 2010 3:52 am

done-ish. if we win the lottery soon we´ll have another :wink:
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Postby Natalie » Apr 05, 2010 7:03 am

Me. Even if I weren't about to hit 36, we had millions in the bank, my dh wanted wanted more which he doesn't, I could ask for lots of support again from my support network irl, I could put my family through another one of my pgys and I didn't get HG that just gets increasingly severe (and that is a lot of ifs) we would still be done. I know I don't have the mental or physical strength to get through another round of HG. My body just can't take it and I know in my heart of hearts I don't have the fight left in me to do it again.

So yeah, 3 and done for us :cry:
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Postby sal » May 05, 2010 4:20 pm

Done, Done, Done and Done.. Four HG and Four kids down the line, I am so certain about being done. Neither my body or support network could do it again!! I love babies but I need to focus now on raising the ones I have. Can any of you relate to this; the evening my last baby was born, my overwhelming elation was related to never ever having to do HG again (obviously I was delighted to have a new baby. :D ) but HG was gone forever.

If I was to have regrets, it would be that I lost two angels on the way. I can't believe how strongly I feel about no more ( I always wavered in the past) . Dh had the job done and now just waiting for the all clear :D :D :D
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Postby Marinda » May 13, 2010 6:15 pm

We are on pregnancy number two (that's made it this far anyway). And after this we are beyond done! Dh is getting snipped, and I am getting Minera. No questions asked. I am not going through this again. Life threatening HG the first time followed by life threatening pre-eclampsia. HG this time with the prospect of pre-eclampsia in the near future.

Nope no more. No thank you. I don't care that I'm only 27. Never NEVER EVER again.
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Postby E-Mom » May 24, 2010 11:39 am

I have a DS and a DD and one on the way. I didn't feel complete with two, so I'm thrilled beyond thrilled that I'm pregnant now.

The reasons not to have more are mostly my age (I'll be 38 when I deliver), the fact that DH had to be talked into #3, and we're running out of bedrooms.

I'm pretty comfortable with this being my last pregnancy, assuming all goes well. DH already asked when he could get a vasectomy. Since I'm due December 22, I said that could be his Christmas gift.
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