My name is Corey and I'm new to this forum. I've seen my wife on this website for the past couple months and it has really seemed to help her a lot.
So here I am checking things out, trying to learn the perspective of the women a lot better. And I must say, I feel really bad for all the pain and suffering that they have to go through. I've read a lot about the "husbands who don't get it", and to be honest I was one of them for the first few months of our pregnancy.
I'm a computer guy and work nights at home from my PC. When HG started to hit and we didn't know what it was, I found myself spending a lot more time during the day with my computer then with my wife. I was really angry and scared that she wouldn't do the simplest things, and I had to get everything for her. It really made me upset that nothing sounded good for her to eat, and even that the things she did approve of me getting for her she would only eat a tiny bit of and then go throw up.
I haven't thrown up since highschool, and can't imagine what it's like to be throwing up multiple times a day. It took me a while to realize that all this being sick wasn't normal, and it took a lot of effort to get it into my head that all the screaming at me wasn't from my wife, but it was from her being so miserable.
So at first I was very reluctant to help out thinking "why should I have to do everything". Now I feel so bad about that, that any time she wants even the littlest thing I jump up and do it for her. It's the least I can do.
So to all you women who have husbands who don't get it, remind them this, because it's what helped me realize what my wife is going through. Remind them that you were not this "lazy, emotional and very sick" person before you got pregnant, and that this is not a normal pregnancy. Ask them if they can find it in their heart to understand, try to sit down and talk to them. And try to realize that it is hard for them too, because us husbands are scared and upset.
Anyway, I've written a novel here so I wish you all the best