I am posting this in the family and friends forum even though I know it's not very active. I am hoping someone will see it and give advice. My daughter is suffering from HG (second pregnancy) and her husband is just not being very understanding at all. He wasn't the first time around either. He tends to be somewhat self centered and makes everything about him. She has a PICC line and a 2 1/2 year old son and needs his help but all he can seem to do when he's home is sit in front of the TV. She begs and begs for help and if he finally does agree to do something it's after a huge argument and lots of eye rolling and sighing on his part. Now, in his defense he has taken on a second job to make up for her lost salary but he's not working both jobs every day. In fact, he only worked the second job about 3 days last week I think. She's very limited on what she can do due to the PICC line and also due to just feeling horrible most of the time. She finally came and stayed at my house week before last so I could help with her 2 1/2 year old and he threw a big fit and acted like she was leaving him. We live 35 miles apart. He turned to all of his friends and family and gave them a sob story about how she chose to be with their son and her parents instead of staying home and supporting him. Give me a break! She's the one who needs the support right now but he has a tendency to always try to make everything about him even when she's the one who is sick. I found out Saturday night that their kitchen had not been cleaned in 4 days and that he also had not been bathing their son or helping with the housework. I have lost tons of respect for this man. I have even talked with him myself and he will do better for a couple of days and then it's back to lazy land again. This is driving me nuts! I live 35 miles away, work full time and also take care of my elderly mother who had a stroke. Now I feel as if when I get off work everyday I need to go and clean her house for her because he won't do it. If she comes and stays at my house he gets mad but if she stays in their house where so much needs to be done that she cannot physically do she gets more and more depressed. Sorry to ramble but what do we do to make this man understand how serious HG is and stop being so self centered?
Help!!!!
Thanks for letting me ramble and vent. I needed it.