No help...
Posted: Mar 15, 2006 1:41 pm
Well, my final word on this is that it is hard not to feel animosity when I am accumulating debt over this pregnancy and would do ANYTHING for this baby to be healthy, yet when I ask the father for a LOAN from his credit cards (I don't have any...) even offering to sign a 60-day Promissory Note and repay with interest as soon as my maternity benefits start (there is a 4-7 wk delay in processing right now according to the government rep I spoke with as recently as yesterday), he REFUSED.
So, I have to scrape together money for gas, food, medications (including Zofran), parking at the hospital; and know that in the mean time, my mortgage is unpaid and so is daycare. He gave me 100$ the other night, of which 13.50$ was immediately spent on parking at the hospital and another 20$ on gas; then 35$ for my co-pay on Diclectin and gravol (and only 2 wks supply) but obviously no Zofran; and 20$ on eggs, milk, bread, orange juice, soup). So, I sit here with 10$ in my wallet until I don't know when; and no Zofran.
His comment about the Zofran was "Good, because I don't want you taking it anyway"
He feels the justification for refusing is that I have changed so much during this pregnancy, that I am no longer the person I was before. Apparently, the exhaustion, anemia and other deficiencies, constant vomiting and insomnia, worrying about the baby and now extreme stress over finances is not enough stress to cause this.
He says that I am nice to my mother but not to him, but does not look at the whole picture that my mom watches what she eats around me, does not insist on hugs and kisses or cuddling, or tell me that I'm being unreasonable for refusing these and I only see her once every 3-4 wks and talk to her about 3 times a week. (Before you all ask or suggest, unfortunately she is not in a financial position to offer me the loan.)
And yet, he fails to look at the fact that I have repeatedly asked for this loan so that I can reduce my stress, buy some meds and not worry about the cost of a trip (gas & parking) to the hospital if I need it and he refuses. How am I supposed to feel? Wouldn't any normal person start to shut-down and distance themselves after repeated refusals when they are begging for help?
So, I have to scrape together money for gas, food, medications (including Zofran), parking at the hospital; and know that in the mean time, my mortgage is unpaid and so is daycare. He gave me 100$ the other night, of which 13.50$ was immediately spent on parking at the hospital and another 20$ on gas; then 35$ for my co-pay on Diclectin and gravol (and only 2 wks supply) but obviously no Zofran; and 20$ on eggs, milk, bread, orange juice, soup). So, I sit here with 10$ in my wallet until I don't know when; and no Zofran.
His comment about the Zofran was "Good, because I don't want you taking it anyway"
He feels the justification for refusing is that I have changed so much during this pregnancy, that I am no longer the person I was before. Apparently, the exhaustion, anemia and other deficiencies, constant vomiting and insomnia, worrying about the baby and now extreme stress over finances is not enough stress to cause this.
He says that I am nice to my mother but not to him, but does not look at the whole picture that my mom watches what she eats around me, does not insist on hugs and kisses or cuddling, or tell me that I'm being unreasonable for refusing these and I only see her once every 3-4 wks and talk to her about 3 times a week. (Before you all ask or suggest, unfortunately she is not in a financial position to offer me the loan.)
And yet, he fails to look at the fact that I have repeatedly asked for this loan so that I can reduce my stress, buy some meds and not worry about the cost of a trip (gas & parking) to the hospital if I need it and he refuses. How am I supposed to feel? Wouldn't any normal person start to shut-down and distance themselves after repeated refusals when they are begging for help?