Gracie, I had to sign on and respond to this post. Which is saying a lot, because the few posts I managed this morning were just deleted, and that pretty much describes how the rest of my day went.
I know that withdrawl space, and that willingness to pick up and move. I have only 2 commitments that keep me here, and they are big enough to over come my hurting heart.
As for getting over it, I don't know, as I am in the same space. Dh and I have tried and tried to talk. I always end up just a little bit more numb then when I started, and I can't imagine that is helpful.
I can say that I went out and bought a book on overcoming betrayal, whether it be through spouse, friends, or onset of illness...it's pretty broad. It's also sorta new-agie, in a non-fluffy sense...but it is at least a step in the right directing, getting me focused and honest on what I am going through, and hopefully helping me see not only my way through it, but the light at the other side. Something to help me reclaim myself, because I don't need all those people that just left me. It hurts, but why should my life hang on their abandonments? Easier said then done, but it's something.
Anyway, the book is called "Betrayal, Trust, and Forgiveness A Guide to Emotional Healing and Self-Renewal" in case your interested. I can only read a little bit at a time, thanks to the beautiful blessing of HG. But thebits I have read seem to give me a new outlook.
I can also say that I will walk this right along side of you, and maybe we can help each other through.
I may want to withdrawl from most everything, but this site has taught me the true value of support. That is, perhaps, the biggest gift I have gotten through this ordeal. I lost a lot, but I gained much
The only thing worth stealing is a kiss from a sleeping child.