I am 37 weeks with my second and about 97% sure that this is it for us. This pregnancy has put an inordinante strain on my marriage and my family and my son and I just can't imagine doing it again. I am 36 years old and DH is 39.
The 3% that is unsure is more because I'm having a second boy than because I've always wanted a particularly big family. I've always imagined no more than 2-3 kids. I already love my new baby boy, of course, but the twinges of loss and uncertainty I get are all about not having a daughter. I look at little girls at DS' preschool, the ones with similar coloring, etc., and I think of the little girl I will not have. So far its a loss I am willing to live with, though I think there will always be a little hole in my heart.
I have already told DH, in all seriousness, that I am not doing this again and if we want another, we will adopt -- a girl. Its possible but frankly I doubt we would even do that, most likely the two boys will be our family.
I want something VERY reliable but not permanent for birth control after this pregnancy. Today I discussed the possibilty of a Mirena IUD with my doctor. She was very informative and it sounds like a good fit for my needs.
What are folks' experience with the Mirena? I am very sensitive generally, have had irregular periods in the past, and also developed bad headaches after my last round with the pill (low dose). Thoughts? I didn't realize that it can stop your period -- I found that unsettling, actually, both because it seems unnatural and I like having the regular reassurance that I am not PG.
DS, Feb. 2007, mild-moderate HG
DS, Jan. 2011, mild HG