by mandy » Jan 28, 2006 6:22 am
Beccy,
My friend began the adoption process here in the Uk at age 27 (dh 26). At that point they had only tried to concieve for about 6 months but infertility was suspected but not confirmed. The adoption process began before confirmation of this (like a year before). I believe these are guidelines not set in stone. SS are just trying to make sure people have really thought things through. Two terminations due to hg seem to indicate to me that you have no doubt that pregnancy is not the route you want to go again. I really believe that should be enough for them and that if you want to proceed with adoption, if you find a dr knowledgeable of hg (I know, no easy feat), but if they will give a report on the seriousness of what you have been through, then it should be possible to be approved for adoption.
My friend has just been approved. She was told their young ages were a positive (which previously she had been told would make things more difficult). Adoption has guidelines but from her experience, it is quite flexible. They are more interested in you as a couple, what you have to offer a child and that you have a stable relationship/home etc.
I wish you all the luck in the world and am sorry that your hg was so severe.
All the best, Mandy x
mother of two
hg from wk 6 - daughter born in 1999
hg from wk 5 - son born in 2002