ER visit after HG

[kungfumoose]

A few days after my daughter was born, I had a severe allergic reaction, and ended up in the ER a few days later with a high fever.
Because of the HG, and the birth I was anemic. (my hemoglobin was only 7.6 when I was discharged after birth)
Along with horrible hives, the allergic reaction also caused swelling in my joints, and made walking, and moving almost unbearable.
The nurse kept telling me that I needed to get up an move around more, and that I was making myself sick. She said that she could tell that my husband was "doing too much" for me, and that I needed to take care of myself.
They discovered pneumonia in my lungs (that's what was causing the fever), and when the nurse came back in she said "you know, this pneumonia was completely preventable, you should have gotten up, and moved around, and not make your husband do everything for you" I said "it's a little hard to get up and about when you have anemia" she said "you have pneumonia" I said "I have anemia from hyperemesis, and the birth" she said "you still need to get up and about, it's your own fault that this happened!"
REALLY? she was there when the doctor took my history, she knew I had been sick with HG for the last 9 months, that I was anemic, and had been in bed for 2 days with hives covering me from head to toe, and swollen painful joints.
How was ANY of this my fault?! I wanted to punch her in the face. If I hadn't of felt so horrid, I probably would have given her a piece of my mind!
Every time she came in the whole time I was there she made at least one snarky comment about getting up, and taking care of myself, because, you know, I'm not the first woman to give birth. grrrr.......

[AnneCan]

I can't believe she actually said that to you! I swear, some people get in to the wrong professions! That sucks! I'm sorry you aren't able to just be done with feeling like crap! Haven't you been through enough already? I hope you recover quickly and never see that dumb nurse again! Hugs

[eliana1300]

I had complications after my c-section, and everyone chalked it up to be that I wasn't getting up and moving fast enough after having my son. Well, excuse me, but 9 months of nausea, adding in those 4 months of horrible uncontrollable vomiting, a "colicky" baby that wasn't getting enough milk, bleeding that wouldn't stop, causing anemia, and, heck, let's throw in winter while we are at it, and NO, I wasn't moving around much. I wasn't one of those cute mommies with the snuggly baby stroller, going for my daily run. Some days, it was hard enough to just get out of bed (and some days, I didn't!).

That nurse was just nasty for no reason, and shouldn't have put her nose where it didn't belong. You didn't need to hear that other women have done this without getting pneumonia! You needed to hear that other women have gotten pneumonia and gotten better just fine. You needed encouragement, not put-downs to get moving. I can kind of understand what she was trying to do, but really, she could have handled in a much better way. I'm sorry you had to deal with someone so ignorant.

[DivineLotus]

After an HG pregnancy and a sucky ass 2 day labor I have 0 to NO patience. I would have told that bitch off. Who the F does she think she is?! The nerve of some idiots.

Sorry your feeling so sick mamas. Hope you get better and I'm happy your dh is helping you.

[Morsynseva]

My hospital sent out a survey form after my ER stay and I let them know exactly what happened in the comment section (similar situation). after my experiences I want to make sure to always have that contact info on hand to call out staff who mistreat and bully me.

[angielizzy]

When my nan had her children it was normal to spend 2 weeks in bed with the baby after birth. She said the midwife came in every day to bath the baby and you were just expected to rest and feed your baby. She used to tell me I was doing to much if I just walked over to see her(she lives about 100 yards away lol) my midwife kept telling me to do more and get out even thou my dd didn't sleep I wasso tired and recovering from hg (which seemed to be irrelvant once I had given birth as I should have been instantly better)

[phaerelastra]

I had a 5 day hospital stay just last month, and I refuse to let anyone responsible for my care screw with me in the slightest. I'm one of those bitches that asks for a manager if you look at me crooked. Seriously, you have every right to refuse to let a person care for you, and to ask for someone else. I had a doctor make some errors in judgment that delayed my care, so I refused to let him back in my room and his partners had to come see me.

LOL I take crap from no one... between kidney stones, endometriosis, 2 c-sections, (many surgeries in between) and a more recent HG baby, you better treat me right or get out.