Amanda, you were very generous in calling that "man" a SOP. He was just looking for your DH to be his drinking buddy and you were making that less likely to happen. Men can be... ummmm.... jerky (?) in that situation.
Your decision to stay home with your child is what is best for YOU. This... ummmm... GUY has no right to question a decision that was made by you and your dh. Just because it isn't the decision he might make, doesn't make it less valid, or you less intelligent. I am kind of in the same boat, I started teaching preschool right after I graduated from high school. Years of college later, I chose NOT to return to work until both of my children were older and in school, and then just part time so they wouldn't have to go to daycare. Even though they are 13 and 10 now, I still work at their school (I'm a special ed. aide now) and refuse to get a second job during the summer. My thought process is that I made the choice to have these children, I will raise them myself. Sure we could use the extra money, but it doesn't make sense for me to work to pay someone else to watch the kids, and I am NOT leaving them alone all day. There isn't a thing I've missed out on, and wouldn't trade it for the world. Having the job I have is the best blessing ever... I know my kids friends, have the same days off, same hours... it is amazing.
Doing what we feel in our hearts is right is one of the best gifts we can give our children. Keep up the good work, ladies!