Hi, my name is Keri. I'm living in Maryland and from West Virginia. I'm 35. I had my first child last October following a moderate HG pregnancy (nothing felt moderate about it!!). He was my 5th pregnancy. I am sad to have 3 early angels from m/c. I am also sad that I had one prior HG pregnancy with no real support that ended in an early termination.
During the first HG pregnancy, I was unaware of what HG was. I was unable to keep food down and sometimes unable to keep fluid down. I was put on Phenergan suppositories, but they did not help control the NVP. I kept missing work and needed the paychecks badly at the time. The father (I was financially supporting us both btw) became verbally and emotionally abusive to me, and I found the end of my rope. I did not know how to be that sick with no support and gave up. I still grieve that loss. I grieve the m/c's too.
Finally, I met the man who was better than my wildest dreams and we decided to get married. He is so patient, loving, supportive, and generally my own personal superman (with a soft, gentle heart). We wanted kids but had an appointment to see a fertility specialist due to my repeated m/c's. Before that appointment date arrived, we were pregnant. At 5 weeks, I was nauseated. At 6 weeks, I was severely nauseated and having trouble functioning. At 7 weeks, I began vomiting uncontrollably, became severely dehydrated, and had to go to the hospital for fluids, Reglan, and Zofran. I was sent home with ODT Zofran 4 mg. It worked for a few days and stopped working. I was put on 8 mg ODT Zofran. It never helped. I was transitioned to Alere and put on the pump. I HATED that pump, but it kept us alive. I had all the awful welts from the pump and the Zofran side effects. Even on a high dosage and using my extra doses, I was still dysfunctional. I could not bathe or clothe myself. I could not walk upstairs without help. My DH became my nurse while also taking care of the dog and house and working more than full time. I used all my vacation and sick leave and then used 10 weeks of FMLA. I had serious sensitivity to motion, sound, smell, and touch. I lost 20 lbs (11% of my body weight at the time) in a month. I thought I was dying many times. I thought I was misdiagnosed and really I had some aggressive form of cancer they were not catching. I still had my very, very bad days where my ketones went wild and nothing stayed in me. Those days landed me in the hospital for IV fluids, meds and electrolytes.
My weight stabilized at 16 weeks. I was able to come off the pump at 19 weeks and back to work by 20 weeks. Things slowly improved and I was blessed to only have mild nausea in my 3rd trimester instead of a full relapse. After starving though, my body clung to calories and I gained a lot of weight in the last part of my pregnancy. I'm still struggling with how my body lost so much muscle mass while starving and bed ridden and then gained so much fat while preparing for breastfeeding.
My DH and I always wanted at least 2 kids. I'm trying to have the strength and courage to plan another pregnancy. I don't want HG to win. I don't want it to change our family plans. I stalked these forums while sick. Now that I'm planning a new pregnancy, I wanted to join and talk to people to create a plan and protocol. We will be moving soon, so I also want to get recommendations on providers when we land somewhere new.