Hello, I'm Rochelle and I am new to the forum. In 2009, I got married and pregnant shortly after. I already had an 11 year old from a previous relationship. My pregnancy with my oldest was fine...no problems, I ate well, vaginal delivery, no issues. I don't know if it is because I was younger then....but my second child's pregnancy was the absolute worst! I was extremely sick, vomiting and extremely nauseous every single minute of the day. I couldn't eat, drink or smell anything. Just looking at TV (not even just food...movies, any movement seemed to trigger it) or exposure to light would make me ill. I tried taking tums, eating crackers, peppermint tea, ginger ale...nothing worked. I even had to leave my job because I couldn't work anymore.
Everyone thought I was over exaggerating my sickness. My family just kept insisting on dry foods and small meals and that all pregnant women go through it...The doctors overlooked it, and wouldn't help...nobody understood that it was more than typical morning nausea.....most days I would lay on the cold floor curled into a ball day and night just praying for relief. Finally, I crawled into the doctor's office in tears and begged for help. They finally gave me Zofran....that made it a little better, but I have a high tolerance for medication and I needed just a bit of a higher dosage, which they refused. As such, the remainder of my pregnancy was miserable. I lost 10 lbs, and while other women's bellies in the office seemed to get bigger, my baby seemed to be at a stand still.
At 8 months, I began having extreme headaches and abdominal pain. I called the doctors office and they told me it was just false labor pains....I dealt with the pain, and went in for a normal visit. The nurse took my blood pressure and dropped the cuff. My blood pressure was 190/200. I should have been dead or somewhere with a stroke or seizure. Turns out I had severe preeclampsia and they took my baby immediately via cesarean delivery. She almost weighed 4lbs and we both stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks on IV's, magnesium and other meds, because they couldn't get my blood pressure to go down, and the baby was sick and underweight. I can't help wondering if the preeclamspia developed from the extreme nausea (HG)? I had no idea there was a name for this illness. I never heard of HG, and the doctors never gave it up as an option.
I'm sorry for this long message, but I just don't know what to do. I've been on birth control since then. Recently I was getting headaches from the pill, so they changed my pill...somewhere in that change, I just found out I am pregnant again. Although I should be happy as I was the first time, I am now severely depressed. The thought of having to go through that again is frightening and depressing. The reason I knew I was pregnant is because I began to become extremely nauseous and vomit again. I'm only 4 weeks and absolutely miserable --again. I haven't told my husband yet, because I just don't know what to do..(he's been working overtime this last week, so I've managed to hide for now). I don't know how to handle this again and still be super mom to my 2 daughters, one who starts high school this year, and the other who is an ambitious 2 year old who needs a lot of my time. I find myself back in the same position, just as I started my own business and I am beginning to look for and also obtain clients, while we were just starting to improve our finances. If I have this baby, how can I maintain this? what if I lose clients or can't obtain them because I'm too sick? I just don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions?